Diving into: Relationship(s)

Relationships can be very difficult. Through all the ups and downs it can be very hard to keep steadfast in our love for the lord and continue to pursue both our relationship with our partner and God. Here is a little dive into the topic of relationship and how we can be excited to pursue a godly relationship, the relationship path that was made for us

Growing up i always fantasized about the boy that i wanted to "Marry", "Date", etc. As i grew older not only in my faith but also by learning from previous relationships, my desires and hopes for a relationship have changed. Personality traits, Personal relationship with God, Looks, etc.

Yes, i did write "looks" because yes a person's appearance is not a top priority but we do want to be attracted to the person we marry/date. A lot of people may think that this may sound cold, or just wrong but i believe that a connection can also come through sexual attraction, to an extent. I also believe that by looking at the attraction you have for a person physically can blind you from other things like their personality, and other factors you look for in a partner. I experienced this in my previous relationship.

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes; Rather it should be your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is in great worth in God's sight" - Peter 3:3-4

Faith in God through relationship seasons

My previous relationship was not built on our faith and was not honouring God the way that i wanted it too. Four Months in a relationship, without God in the center of it, taught me that i really want a God centred relationship. I don't want to share very much but the end of the relationship was mutual because we could both tell that we were headed down very different paths after high school and i personally could tell that we had a different level of faith as well. Though it was mutual, it hurt for a couple months after, which is expected when any relationship comes to an end but at the time i felt as though i lost a really good friend.

August-October was definitely a growing season for my personal walk with Jesus but also coming to know my worth and identity in Christ. I got the privilege to go to bible camp for two weeks over the summer and get to know other christians that love Jesus and want to build his kingdom through sharing the gospel to kids. Not only that but i got to grow my faith with my best friend and gain some more friends that i love with my whole heart.

Getting to the point, waiting seasons (like waiting after a breakup) can be difficult. When you are out of relationships you may feel as though your life is on hold or something is missing, but the seasons in waiting are also seasons of growing in your faith, friendships, self love, etc. Your relationship status does not define you or mean that you aren't worthy of love. You were made and loved by God. The one that created heaven and earth. You are loved.

“I'm fully known and loved by you.” - Tauren Wells

Looking back at my previous friendships and relationships i can truthfully say that the future excites me. Knowing that God has a person for me, knowing that there is someone out that for me that will love me for me but love God even more is oh so very exciting!

- Reed Funk

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